“Happiness is not the absence of problems, it’s the ability to deal with them.”
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
For many people, true happiness is a pipe dream; something that they want to attain but yet it always seems out of reach. People often wonder how they can be happy when their lives are always in turmoil. True happiness does not come when one reaches a goal or makes a certain amount of money. True happiness often comes from within. Miserable people often do not actually have a large number of problems that other people do not have. It is in the way that they perceive their problems that makes them more likely to be miserable rather than happy with what they have in life.
Perception is cosmic.
The way one perceives an obstacle or struggle often dominates how they feel on the inside as well. Successful people, or people who always appear to be happy-go-lucky, have their fair share of problems too. It is how they perceive those problems and overcome their obstacles that determine their fate. Instead of allowing themselves to wallow in their self-pity and constantly play back everything negative that has happened to them, they use their own strength to lift themselves from the muck and power on to their goals. People who are able to do this often lead incredible lives, even if they once struggled and even if they experience problems and obstacles daily.
Of course, as humans, there are times that we will not be happy. Constantly feeling like we are having the time of our lives is not typical. Stress, anxiety, lack of sleep, loneliness, and many other emotions often make their way to the top during the course of a day or week. However, one can still be generally happy or content with their lives even though they may sometimes feel other emotions as well. Feeling a range of emotions is certainly normal, and even needed at times. Allowing these negative emotions to take over, on the other hand, is not.
Your personal and true happiness depends on you.
There are several things that you can do to be truly happy even when it seems the world is tumbling down around them. Trying to see things from a positive perspective is how many people, including many successful people, live their lives without being weighed down from the daily grind. Seeing the silver lining in each scenario can be difficult, but with practice, it becomes a mindset. Reading daily motivational quotes is a great way to stay motivated, and journaling daily about fears or things that cause anxiety and stress can be very helpful. Once these things are written down, you no longer have to carry them around with you. A gratitude journal is also a great way to flip your perspective. Taking time each day to be thankful and to see what is going well in your life is a sure way to see the bright side of every situation.
It is not easy to develop and hone these skills in seeing the bright side of things, but it is worth it. People often find that once they make peace with the world around them they feel lighter and genuinely happier. Their lives have less turbulence and they are more easily able to conquer the tasks at hand within their lives. Taking time each day to care for yourself and slowly change the way you perceive the world is very significant. Whether the change is slow or immediate, you are sure to notice a difference. True happiness is how you relate to the world.